No matter how attractive you find someone you’re working with, think about getting into this relationship before you fall head over heels with them.  If they are a hunk or bombshell, it’s possible they may be more used to starting up relationships or have a higher risk tolerance than you.   

While a large percentage of companies don’t have policies against dating those you work with, some do and you should read your company manual first.  If you’re in the clear with the company policy, that doesn’t mean you still can’t be considered irresponsible or negligible with your work product.  Once folks find out you are in a relationship (and there’s a strong likelihood they will no matter how you try to conceal  it), you could be a center of gossip and your productivity perceived as poor, even if you’re trying hard to not have it be affected.

Consider giving your desire a waiting period, such as three months, before taking any actions to move it forward.  Weigh the pros and cons. 

I myself have had a few of these situations in my young work career.   (Fortunately, I’m not alone in this.  See Vault’s 2010 Office Romance Survey)  In one case, it was not so much that this guy was a hunk, but his senior position and interest in me regrettably provoked my attraction to him at the time.  It was short-term and embarrassing, but mostly for me.   Then I had to continue to work in the same office daily — awkward.

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