Contrary to the popular notion that the holidays are a time of intensified stress and emotional strain, even leading to self-destructive behaviors, studies find just the opposite.

The grinch has actually stolen the blues and blahs during this season.  That’s because folks have experienced that extending themselves to others at this time of year can be uplifting and even reduce depression.  That doesn’t mean there isn’t stress due to holiday preparations and shopping, but there is a more pervasive feeling of joy than we’ve heard was true.

If there’s a lot of energy and buzz around you, but you don’t feel a part of the joy…if you’re out of work or cash…if you feel overwhelmed…if you’re reflecting on the loss of a loved one…or have any other reason for feeling low, know this:  contrary to the theory that if you don’t have it to give, don’t, this is the time to reach out to others.

You’ll always be able to find someone in poorer shape than you and even if you find you don’t have the reserves to give substantially, simple gestures of kindness to others can restore you both.  Out of work?  You never know who will offer you that lead.  Wallowing in sorrow is not going to bring your loved one back.  So you have to take the first step to get outside your comfort zone and look around to see who you can call or visit to offer a kind word or some assistance.

There’s a reason we persist in holiday celebrations and rituals — could it be because they connect us to others, make us feel love and loved, and remind us there’s hope?  That is, if we let them.

What’s an act of kindness you can offer to others this holiday season?