Every once in a while, you’ll attract a strange individual who is not a fit with you or the work you do.  Whether you’re in an office and it’s necessary to interact with them temporarily, or they are calling you about your business, you’ll have to use smooth communication skills to address what feels like their creepy style. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s not just Halloween that can bring out the goulish nature of folks.  You probably don’t often run into true diabolical, wicked or evil people, but you may run into difficult or cruel people at times.  How do you handle those who you need to interface with for personal or business reasons who behave this way?

1.  Don’t take their behavior personally. Easier said than done, but instead, catch yourself and remain calm without reacting.  Let them say or do what they want (as long as they’re not hurting you, and if they are, get immediate help).  Remember it’s their issues and you will do best not to fuel their fire if you listen and don’t comment while they’re spewing.

Some folks mismanage their anger and spew often, while others are bottled up and need to get things off their chest periodically, but do this inappropriately.  It’s likely it’s not really about you, but you just got in the line of fire.  Your  silence let’s them clear out what they have to say so you can then have their listening to suggest changes.   Give them the floor to talk till they’ve said all they need to and their anger will dissipate. Read the rest of this entry »

Are you an excessive worrier?  Do you second-guess decisions and worry over potential outcomes?  Most often this is learned behavior from interpretations you made during interactions with one or both of our parents when you were a kid.  You don’t have to live with this fearfulness about bad things happening.  It is something you can change.

Most of my clients have some level of anxiety over their current situation, whether it’s about their personal or business relationships, career uncertainty or finances, etc.  (Rarely do upsetting situations present long term, or they would be better served through therapy).  They find a solution first and then fine-tune it with me during coaching or they gain that clarity and take new actions during our coaching time.

Again, the origin of their habit of deep seated or ongoing concern is at home with their parents as a child.  So it’ll pop up with another challenge or problem they face unless they permanently change the way they view life.

A quick and sure method to remove this fear and create an opening for choices without conditions is with the Positive Thinking Way program. Originated through the Lefkoe Institute, training through them has led me to do my work in this area with clients worldwide.

A starter method of self-coaching you can use with yourself ongoingly whenever you feel worried or upset, is to ask yourself these two questions: Read the rest of this entry »

Since this is the busiest season of the year, if you’re out of work and just want to get some income coming in or have time to take on an extra job or make some additional money, check out these referral articles and job sites.  Read here about the best places hiring and also how to ask for what you need within your circle of influence.  These seasonal jobs may not pay much or lead to a fulltime job, but never say never.

There are many useful sites online, but these give you plenty of info and resources to get you going!

Enter your zip code at the snag a job site and look up holiday jobs

Go to this all retail job site and put in hourly or seasonal or holiday plus how far from your home you want it

Visit the Monster job site and search “holiday jobs”

Visit the payscroll site

Read this Fortune magazine article on the CNN site and learn more about holiday jobs

See the New York Times sponsored links holiday job listings

Visit the job mouse for their advice on searching for holiday jobs

Video from KarmaTube, 4:51 minutes.  Courtesy and in appreciation of You Tube.  Women in Nepal apply the Heifer.org approach to community interaction, knowledge and training and sustainability to end hunger and poverty in Nepal.  These women share their experiences as they now have an ”us” and “ours” mentality, spurring them to “pass on the gift” with joy and hope.