Are You a Scaredy Cat? Form a Healthier Way of Being.
Are you an excessive worrier? Do you second-guess decisions and worry over potential outcomes? Most often this is learned behavior from interpretations you made during interactions with one or both of our parents when you were a kid. You don’t have to live with this fearfulness about bad things happening. It is something you can change.
Most of my clients have some level of anxiety over their current situation, whether it’s about their personal or business relationships, career uncertainty or finances, etc. (Rarely do upsetting situations present long term, or they would be better served through therapy). They find a solution first and then fine-tune it with me during coaching or they gain that clarity and take new actions during our coaching time.
Again, the origin of their habit of deep seated or ongoing concern is at home with their parents as a child. So it’ll pop up with another challenge or problem they face unless they permanently change the way they view life.
A quick and sure method to remove this fear and create an opening for choices without conditions is with the Positive Thinking Way program. Originated through the Lefkoe Institute, training through them has led me to do my work in this area with clients worldwide.
A starter method of self-coaching you can use with yourself ongoingly whenever you feel worried or upset, is to ask yourself these two questions:
1. What am I making this upset mean? (Typically you’re blowing things out of proportion and it brings up negative thoughts and emotions about you, someone else, or the situation. Get out all of the negative meanings your mind wants to make up about what this looks like or could lead to. Write them down if it helps you).
Now ask yourself…
2. What else might it mean? (For each one of these concerns ask if there’s any other possible meaning for them. If you can find another meaning, your original interpretation can’t possibly be the only one. Now there is room to let the chips fall where they may without focusing on a negative outcome as the only option available).
You can alter your habitual behavior to look at things negatively, fearfully or doubtfully and easily turn this around to allow new possibilities!
Tags: eliminating fear and negative beliefs, get rid of fear and worry, renewing hope and healing, worry free
October 17th, 2011 at 8:11 pm
I think that negative thinking is a kind of cleanse – hoping to process those negative thoughts enough for them to leave your mind. However, it seems that the more you think, the deeper down the spiral you go. It’s incredibly difficult to not allow those thoughts to process at all.
October 18th, 2011 at 12:16 pm
W. Russell, I agree that sometimes negative thoughts can work themselves out, but having support to clear them can expedite this. In the Positive Thnking Way program, you get to clearly view that you are creating those thoughts and are living consistently with what you chose. You see them as one interpretation of many you could have thought or felt from earlier experiences. It allows you to take the power back and redirect your life. Coaching offers you that aerial perspective which is hard to see on your own when you’re actively living your life.