I awoke this morning with my attention on one thing that wasn’t going smoothly and soon I found a whole bucket of issues to be unhappy about.  There aren’t many things to complain about in my life truthfully, when I come to look at it now, but in that moment, it was all I could see.   I couldn’t even remember then that it was just a brief “down” to my generally “up” feelings.  It could be the fluctuating cold and hot weather affecting me and the restless sleep I got last night, it could be something I ate before bed that upset my body, or it could be a “natural” propensity I have to sometimes view what’s out before finding my center again.

There are those who can walk into a perfectly clean, sparkling and comfortable office area, but notice the wilting plant in the corner more than anything else.   There can be a benefit to them having that detailed eyesight, for example the plant may otherwise not get watered.  

I’ve heard of a study that was done examining in different people the diverse reactions to the same conversations.  Some listeners heard ”X’s” while others were speaking “O’s” to them and visa-versa.    What does this mean?

To me this means we all have a style of viewing life in a certain way, to look on the positive side of things and be generally happy, or to notice things that are missing, different or out of place.  Neither view is right or better.  

The question is are you troubled by what you see and do you dwell on it to the point of your unhappiness?  Because regardless of your “natural” tendency and considering you’re not suffering from a mental disorder of any kind, you have to recognize you can change your moods, thoughts and feelings.  You can take certain actions that will move you from a place of stuckness to one of openness and new possibilities.  And often you must come to a place of acceptance with people or situations and move on. 

Your feelings don’t own you.  You have the power to be happy in your life. 

(Refer to www.positivethinkingway.com for more on changing stuck beliefs, emotions and behaviors).

Tags: changing your beliefs and behaviors, controlling thoughts and moods, personal power, self acceptance

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