If the Shoe Doesn’t Fit – Life Coach Tip for the Determined You
I own a really cute pair of shoes that I wish fit me, but they don’t. They never have. I bought them knowing they were tight and thinking I could have them stretched to fit. Never mind that my baby toes were squeezed or that three toes were sticking out a little too far through the small open toe area. You have to understand, the shoes were so stylish, the two-toned colors matched several of my outfits, the price was reasonable, and I needed shoes to go with my outfit.
My desire to have what I wanted right then overshadowed my best decision barometer and put me in a followup series of bad decisions. The first was when I bought them. Then I went to the shoe store and paid to have the shoes stretched and rubber taps put on the bottom. I rushed the cobbler, as we were leaving for the weekend event the next day. I wore my pretty shoes around the house while I got ready for us to leave, telling myself they’d stretch some more. I brought along another plain pair of shoes just in case, though I was sure I wouldn’t need them.
An hour into the event had me hobbling a good distance to my hotel room in bare feet to change out these painful shoes for the comfy ones I’d brought along. I applied bandaids to give extra cushioning to my reddened baby toes. What a welcome relief, as I placed my wounded feet into shoes less squishy and then returned to the event having much less attention on my feet.
After pulling these same shoes out to consider wearing twice since this event, and deciding against it, they are finally getting donated today - 7 months later.
The analogy has not escaped me, as I’m sure it won’t you. Are there times you’re determined to make something work that just isn’t going to – yet you don’t stop and change what you’re doing or let it go? A project? A relationship? A broken item that needs to be tossed and not repaired again? A keepsake that brings up sadness, or just isn’t needed?
Or something you should never agree to try in the first place? Trust me, the blisters aren’t worth it!
Tags: adjusting your expectations, changing course, letting go, making changes
