Speaking About Balance
Last Friday I had the privilege to speak at the National Association of Asian American Professional’s annual convention, here in L.A. My presentation was received well, yet I realize that the topic of balance is a very delicate and painful one for many individuals and I want to review my materials and go much deeper into some of my key points. I’m interested in not only giving tips and tools and a new definition for how to view balance as a whole life view, rather than simply balancing work and homelife, but really getting to the heart of the issues that block us from having a happier life.
At lunch, one of the women who attended my talk said she would like me to have gone more into the concern of ”guilt” for working Asian Americans (and they’re not the only culture that has this), that disrupts their personal balance. She said that her culture has learned to put the company’s values often above their own. If a boss expects you to stay late and finish a project, homelife comes second.
At this delicate employment time, I would not encourage anyone to go up against their boss and refuse to do what they’re asked, but I do think some communication about personal needs are warranted. If you’re helpful and accommodating much of the time, then it stands to reason that another value of yours, to be with your family, can be honored at least a few nights during the weekday. You can and must make that request not to work late all the time or take on weekend hours.
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It’s a shame that when someone consistently gives alot of themselves, those in power positions expect it and more. So it is up to you to create the boundaries in which you govern your life and maintain balance in all areas of it. Don’t wait till you’re bitter or burnt out, but schedule a meeting to talk about your needs with your boss. Position your request by including what your commitment to the company (and project) is and therefore how reasonable it is that you work a more balanced schedule to continue to give your best when on the job.
If you have successfully communicated your balance needs to
your boss, what worked best in your communication? Flight of the Phoenix trailer
